They say it's not where you are but who you're with that matters, and I think this phrase applies to weddings, too. Of course, there is a difference between a grand ceremony on the beach and quick get-together in someone's backyard, but a super tacky best man and a crazy alcoholic aunt could destroy the atmosphere of either event.

To drive this point home, the members of the subreddit 'Wedding Shaming' are sharing the cringiest moments they've witnessed on people's big day. Judging from their posts, it seems like there are endless opportunities to ruin not just photos, but the memories as well—if you're inconsiderate enough.

Continue scrolling to check them out and don't miss the chat we had with etiquette expert Diane Gottsman.

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Thinking Far Ahead For Wedding Drama Control…via Craigslist

Wedding date ad seeking attentive companion for mother-in-law, offering $1,000, with job expectations and perks listed.

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2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

ok not gonna lie this is actually smart. some mils think their sons or daughters r still their baby and hate they r getting married. finding a distraction for drama making mils isnt a bad idea. it would actually take a huge weight off the bride and grooms shoulders and enjoy the day without family drama

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However, couples are often under a lot of pressure when they're planning and throwing their wedding. There's a myriad of decisions to be made, from choosing a venue to managing the guest lists, and the whole process can become (a little) overwhelming.

So, we asked Diane Gottsman, an internationally renowned etiquette expert and founder of the Protocol School of Texas, whose clients range from university students to Fortune 500 companies' leaders, which of these challenges are the most pressing in 2025.

"Budget is always an issue because the number of guests couples want to invite may not be able to coincide with their finances," she told Bored Panda. "It’s important to not overextend yourself. Invite the people that are really important to you and don't feel pressure to invite those who are [merely] asking for an invitation, or that extended family suggest you invite."

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    Groom's Mother Photobombs The Newly Weds' By Sitting Between Them In Full Mourning Dress And Staring At A Bust Of Her Dead Husband

    Victorian wedding photo with bride, groom, and seated woman beside a bust, exemplifying unusual weddings shared online.

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    Flashback To When My Mother In Law Wore This To Our Wedding. You Could Also See Her Purple Thong Underwear Through The Material. See Her Hand Reaching Out! This Was During The Kiss When She Grabbed Him So She Could Kiss Him

    A couple embracing at a wedding ceremony with onlookers, highlighting a chaotic wedding moment.

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    Mil Hires Someone To Throw Red Paint On Bride's Dress

    Man sweeping red spill at chaotic wedding scene outside venue.

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    To avoid drama and some of the problems we see in these pictures, couples should remember to consider everyone else's point of view.

    "It's the bride and groom’s big day. It’s their responsibility, however, to greet every guest so each guest will remember the moment and feel welcome," Gottsman, author of the book Modern Etiquette for a Better Life, said.

    Smiling at others and enjoying their company is easier when you take care of your own needs first, so rest well before the ceremony and set yourself up for success.

    "Eat before the ceremony [too]. Have a little nibble so you aren't famished," Gottsman added.

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    These things might seem inconsequential, but you know how grumpy we can be when we're not feeling our best.

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    A Software Engineer Wore An Apple Vision Pro To His Wedding

    A groom in goggles at a wedding with a scenic mountain backdrop, bride holding bouquet, showcasing unusual wedding moments.

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    The Dress My Mom Is Planning To Wear To My Wedding. She Sent This To Me Yesterday And I Still Haven’t Replied

    A bride wearing an elegant, vintage-style white wedding dress with lace details and cap sleeves.

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    Bride Is On The Left, And Her Friend Is On The Right And Not With The Bridal Party So The Dress She Wanted Was All Her Choice

    Two brides in white gowns standing side by side on a wooden deck at a wedding ceremony.

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    Mari
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    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Every day of the year you can wear a white dress, the only occasion you don't show up in a white dress is a wedding. It is just attention seeking and trying to ruin the day of the bride.

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    It's only fair to remain mindful of your wedding guests, as many of them make quite the effort to be there for you.

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    According to a 2024 survey from LendingTree, 43% of wedding guests spend an average of $100 to $499 to attend each blessed event. Another 29% spend an average of at least $500, while 12% dish out at least $1,000.

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    I Really Hope She Finds Someone For Her Wedding

    Social media post listing unrealistic requirements for a wedding photographer.

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    Panda-sized Potato
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    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I hope she doesn't find anyone for her wedding. This level of entitlement is frustrating, to say the least.

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    Not A Wedding I'd Like To Be A Part Of

    A tweet discusses disturbing wedding traditions, with a group of men in traditional attire attending a ceremony.

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    The Dress The Hair & Make Up Girl Wore To My Friends Beach Wedding

    Guest at a wedding wearing a bold, floral outfit with a tattoo visible, sitting in a row of chairs outdoors.

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    KazzaHazza
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    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    She’ll be walking around with the pattern of the chair imprinted on her a*s for hours

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    Many weddings require guests to travel—an expense they're typically expected to shoulder.

    But most guests think their presence isn't enough to count as a present: 91% of such attendees say they feel pressure to get the couple a gift as well, and 67% did.

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    Saw This On My Way To Breakfast. Not Even A Please, Just A Demand

    "Car with 'Just Married' sign and honeymoon donation request, highlighting a unique wedding moment."

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    “Budget” Grazing Table - You Get What You Paid For

    Wedding buffet with snacks and fruits on two tables with white tablecloths in a rustic setting.

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    Panda-sized Potato
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    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Even on a budget, you can get cheap paper plates everywhere. That table cover has already absorbed the liquid from the fruit, which means it probably absorbed other filth.

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    Influencer Bride-To-Be Begging For A Free Artwork

    Wedding arrangement message offering exposure instead of payment for art illustration services.

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    Mother In Law Wore A Tiara And Sash To My Wedding

    Bride in green dress and mother of the groom in purple at a wedding with blurred family members.

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    Such gifts are part of the reason why people even go into debt to attend weddings — and some take on quite the commitment.

    Of everyone who has taken on this kind of debt, 23% took on $2,500 or more. Fortunately, more guests (43%) took on less than $1,000.

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    Saw An Acquaintance At A Wedding Last Night. Still Shocked At What She Wore

    Person in gold dress with mixed emoji faces at a wedding, indoor floral and pillar decoration.

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    White Sauce Hot Sauce
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    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Maybe I'm missing something, but this seems standard for a formal event. Not white and not a bridal cut.

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    Another Gem In A Wedding Group With A Greedy Bride

    Bride feeling upset about wedding gift money, holding cash with a disappointed expression, text describing wedding debt.

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    #19

    13 Years Together And He Can't Even Manage Some Nice Jeans

    Couple at an outdoor wedding, one in casual attire and the other in a lace dress, under a gazebo.

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    lovemy suffolk
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    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Well, after 13 years, she knew who she was marrying and she was ok with his choice of clothing so probably all good.

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    But if there was one piece of advice Diane Gottsman would give to the engaged, it's to try not to stress too much.

    "All weddings have highs and lows and what makes it great is understanding the importance of the ceremony as opposed to it being a perfect Instagram photo," she said.

    If you legitimately care about the event and everyone in attendance, you will find a way to make it fun and enjoyable.

    For more wedding shaming, check out our earlier publication on the subreddit.

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    #20

    Guest Dressed Like A Bride (Champagne/White)

    Couple at a wedding, woman in white dress holding a wine glass; a moment from unfortunate weddings shared online.

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    AD Sully
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    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    Of all the tacky choices to make, dressing like a bride at someone else's wedding is easily #1.

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    Gee I Wonder Why These And A Bunch Of Other Happy Home And Bride Groom Stuff Came In As A Goodwill Donation

    Wedding rules signs in a shopping cart, highlighting humorous bride and groom guidelines.

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    I Thought This Was A Troll Post But There Were Actual Real People In The Comments Agreeing With The Bride! 🤯🤯

    Text post discussing wedding attire issues with fiancé's brother's condition causing conflict.

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    2 months ago (edited) DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I say deal with it. It's his brother, it isn't something his brother has controll over, and it's his wedding too. Weddings are only stressfull and only suck when you try to make them perfect. Life is imperfect so celebrate it as it is or be misrable. Do you love your weding fantasy or your future husband more? Your choice.

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    Mother In Law Made It Obvious She Didn’t Want To Be There

    Woman at wedding wearing a frayed denim jacket over a peach ruffled dress, arm linked with a suited individual.

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    #24

    This Was In A Bridal Magazine. I Thought This Was For Suggestions On How To Have A Good Wedding, Not A Tacky One

    Wedding dollar dance alternatives list with humorous and interactive ideas for guests during the reception.

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    If Someone Sent This To Me I Would Simply Just Not Go

    Wedding rules list with humorous guidelines, emphasizing celebration behavior and dress code.

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    Na Schi
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    2 months ago DotsCreated by potrace 1.15, written by Peter Selinger 2001-2017

    I mean the wording could've been nicer, but in general the requirements are reasonable.

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